The Maggio Law Firm Explains the Process of Collaborative Divorce

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Top Orange County divorce lawyers; The Maggio Law FirmCollaborative divorce is a way for a couple to get divorced without going through the contentious process of litigation. The goal of a collaborative divorce is for the couple to end their marriage in a peaceful way and to create a plan for the future.

Collaborative divorce is a combination of the mediation and litigation alternatives. The first key factor of a collaborative divorce is an agreement by all parties involved that no one involved will pursue litigation or threaten to pursue litigation. Instead, the parties must agree to amicably work toward an appropriate settlement agreement that is in everyone’s best interest.

“A court battle often results in a display of hostility that can be damaging to families, especially to children. Using the collaborative divorce process is a way to avoid this hostility and foster a sense of cooperation that will protect a family’s interests,” explained Gerald A. Maggio, an Orange County divorce attorney.

In a collaborative divorce, each party hires his or her own team to assist throughout the process. The team consists of an attorney and a psychologist that will be the party’s representatives throughout the collaborative divorce. In addition to these individuals, a financial specialist, usually an accountant, is jointly retained by the parties to assist in the financial items involved in the dissolution. Also, if there are children involved in the case, a child life specialist will be retained as well. Usually this individual is another psychologist who assists in determining custody and visitation matters.

Once these parties have been identified, the collaborative process involves a series of meetings between these parties to reach agreements that are in the best interest of all interested parties, including the children. During a collaborative dissolution, the parties have more control of the process than they would during litigation. This is because they are involved in the decision making each step of the way. Instead of litigating the matter and putting life changing decisions in the hands of a judge, the parties are responsible for making the decisions that will determine their lives.

Collaborative divorce has a great chance of success if all parties agree to work together to achieve a fair outcome and follow the appropriate procedure. In choosing this option, all parties involved can proceed with their lives with much less disruption than other alternatives provide. “The atmosphere of a collaborative divorce is respectful and causes much less stress than traditional litigation. While a collaborative divorce is not right for all couples, it is a viable option for many couples who have children and are concerned with their continued emotional well-being,” noted Maggio.

For more information or to schedule a consultation with Orange County divorce lawyer Gerald Maggio, contact The Maggio Law Firm by calling (949) 553-0304 or visiting

Making Divorce Easier on Your Kids

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In a divorce, it can be children who suffer the most. The upheaval that divorce causes can have a lasting effect on children’s lives, so it’s important for parents to try and minimize the impact of divorce on their children.

Every member of a family struggles to get through a divorce. It’s not just the parents who have a hard time adjusting to the new situation. To ensure that your children adapt to their new family dynamics during and after a divorce, there are several actions you can take.

Start by telling your children the truth about your divorce. Children need to understand that their parents’ decision is final and is not something that is up for debate. When explaining divorce to children, you will want to consider their age. Younger children may not need as many details as older children will require. You should, though, encourage questions from your kids about your divorce. Open the communication lines early, so they can tell you about their feelings now and in the future.

When explaining divorce to your children, you will need to make it clear that the divorce was not their fault. All too often, children end up believing that their parents have split up because of something they have done.

You should make sure to tell your children about upcoming events or life changes they will experience as a result of the divorce. Telling your children about these events, activities, and schedules earlier rather than later will allow them to adjust to these changes more smoothly.

Working with the other parent to set consistent rules is also important during a divorce. The goal should be consistency, and parents should work together to enforce rules that the kids have been expected to follow all along. This will be particularly important if children begin to act out as a result of the divorce. If children act out by misbehaving, parents should seek to validate their feelings first. Your children’s bad behavior may be a result of the anger, sadness, and confusion they feel regarding the divorce.

One of the most important things you can do during a divorce is spend quality time with your children as often as possible. This means you should allow for no distractions when you are devoting time to your family. Spending this quality time with your children can help them through many of the issues the divorce might cause.

A family law attorney can offer you a wide-range of advice on minimizing the impact of a divorce on children.  Gerald A. Maggio is an Orange County divorce attorney, in Irvine, California.   For more information or to schedule a consultation with Orange County divorce lawyer Gerald Maggio, contact The Maggio Law Firm by calling (949) 553-0304 or visiting

Dealing with the Emotional Challenges of Divorce

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Going through a divorce is a stressful event that can significantly impact your future, but you don’t have to let your divorce ruin your life. There are things you can do now and later to minimize the emotional impact of your divorce.

Regardless of whether you or your spouse started the divorce proceedings, it is important to take the time to recognize the positive things that may result from your divorce. You can overcome the emotional challenges of divorce by looking at things differently. You should think of your divorce as a new beginning, a chance to start a new chapter in your life. Take the opportunity to try new things, such as creating hobbies and discovering new interests. The busier you are with your life, the less time you have to think about the past and the challenges of a divorce.

Amicable divorces usually end with a better result than those that are hostile. To avoid stress, you should try to put aside any negative feelings you have for your former spouse, especially if you have children together. You should also avoid saying negative things about your former spouse. Negative talk doesn’t make things any easier for any party involved. If you have children, it’s especially important not to talk badly about your former spouse. You should not make your kids a sounding board and should do everything possible to prevent them from getting stuck in the middle of the divorce.

Another thing you can do to minimize the emotional stress brought on by a divorce is to ask for help from your friends and family. During any difficult time in your life it is important to have a social network available to support you, and divorce is no different. You should seek to surround yourself with loved ones and allow them to help you through the divorce process. Family members are not the only ones you should trust during your time of need. You should also enlist the help of attorneys, mediators, therapists and financial planners. These trusted professionals can also help you through your time of need.

You can also cope with the emotional challenges of divorce by believing in and standing up for yourself. While you should seek to end things with your spouse amicably, it does not mean you should not stand up for yourself. You should get what you deserve by standing your ground on issues of child support, spousal support, property division, and other issues impacting your children.

Gerald A. Maggio is an Orange County divorce attorney, in Irvine, California.  For more information or to schedule a consultation with Orange County divorce lawyer Gerald Maggio, contact The Maggio Law Firm by calling (949) 553-0304 or visiting

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