Divorcing Your Lawyer Spouse

Divorce can certainly be challenging both emotionally and legally, yet all that takes a new more complex turn when the spouse you are looking to divorce is a lawyer themselves.  People who are looking to divorce their lawyer spouse tend to have a greater sense of anxiety and fear in them owing to their legal acumen and experience. This feeling is normal especially in cases where the divorce has been long overdue, so here is what to consider.

Why does the fear of divorcing a spouse who is a lawyer exists?

The primary reason that this fear exists and holds you firm in its grasp is because of your sense of intimidation to your spouse. This sense of intimidation stems from the fact that all during the marriage and even when looking for divorce, you tend to consider your spouse intellectually superior to you.  The fact that you know your spouse is a lawyer has led you to believe that they have some other legal tricks already planned to ruin you. This however is illogical and not practically possible; all this shows is the level of control they continue to have over you.

How to manage and eliminate this fear?

As long as you have this sense of fear inside you that your spouse is a lawyer, there is very little chance of you getting your divorce right. The best way to make sure you have the right divorce is to manage that fear or even eliminate it. Here are a few ways that you can try and get rid of this fear of divorcing a lawyer spouse:

• You should know that you have hired a competent lawyer and the faith in that lawyer will lessen your fear of being outfoxed and outmaneuvered in a family law court.
• Always remember that no matter how good, famous or intellectual your lawyer spouse is, the primary fact is that they are equal in front of the law.
• Don’t assume that your spouse knows anything more about family law than you or your divorce attorney does.

Gerald A. Maggio is an experienced Orange County divorce and family law lawyer and family law attorney located in Irvine, California, serving the Orange County and Riverside areas. Mr. Maggio assists clients with legal issues including divorce, legal separation, divorce mediation, child custody, prenuptial agreements, stepparent adoptions, and other family law issues. Mr. Maggio has practiced law in California since 1999, and founded The Maggio Law Firm in 2005, focusing exclusively on divorce and family law matters.