5 Common Questions of Parents in a Divorce
When parents go through a divorce, their primary concern is their children. While assets and finances may matter, the fact of the matter is that your children are the greatest asset of all. Here are a few questions related to children that parents can typically ask a divorce attorney in a divorce.
1. How can we create the schedule for the child in co-parenting?
A parenting schedule is an important document to have after a divorce since first up, it helps decrease conflict between the two spouses with everything pre-planned and secondly, it keeps you away from your ex spouse. When you are making a schedule, there are few things that need to take into account, such as;
- Your work schedule
- The work schedule of your spouse
- Whether either of you travels
- The distance between the two houses where you and your spouse live
It is important to ensure that the work schedule isn’t rigid. The child needs to have some sort of freedom and most importantly, the freedom to meet any of the parents whenever he or she wants. Your divorce attorney will help you develop your parenting plan.
2. Which kind of parenting is right for me?
There are two kinds of parenting, co-parenting and parallel parenting. You need to make the choice of which one is right for you and your spouse. The first one is best for people who are on good terms with one another, while the other one is best for spouses that aren’t comfortable dealing with one another.
3. How can I handle not having my children with me every day?
Yes, this is a challenge, and it is a change that you would never have welcomed, but it is nothing out of the ordinary and simply a repercussion of the decision you have taken. The fact that you will not be with your child can hurt, but you should rest assured that you and the other spouse are both equally committed to the betterment of the child. You will be able to meet the child on your turn and contact them regularly, lessening the impact of the lack of presence.
4. What if I can’t stand my spouse and they can’t stand me either?
The problem with parenting is that it can’t be conducted in a vacuum so to speak. Most spouses don’t want to see one another after a divorce. Yet for parenting purposes, they have to. If you hate one another, you can’t eliminate the possibility of conversing, but what you can do is minimize it by crafting well drafted parenting plans and making use of parallel parenting.
5. How do I break the news to my child?
This is something that has no right or wrong answer. Different children react differently to divorce. Yet, typically, you must be compassionate, true and sensitive with the child when breaking the news. They may react adversely, but you need to be the calming presence, allaying their fears.
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