Don't Rush Your Divorce
A divorce can be an extremely trying time of your life, but unfortunately for most, the process of getting the divorce finalized can be a long drawn out one. With life on hold until the divorce comes through, it can be tempting to try and rush things to close out on an agreement quickly. But there are some compelling reasons why you should let things run their course.
It isn’t a sprint
Remember, divorce isn’t a race to the finish. You will need to approach it with a view to getting certain issues resolved and finding long term solutions to areas you and your soon-to-be ex might disagree on. Give each issue its due, ensure you build a strong case for yourself and understand the process properly.
If you try to move things along too quickly at first you may find yourself frustrated when the law doesn’t keep pace. Each stage of the divorce has its set duration and you will need to give it this window to be settled. You might also end up running out of steam when things reach the pointy end and you really need to push hard during final negotiations.
Why you shouldn’t rush things
If you hurry through the process of the divorce, you may end up missing out on discussing some key areas that could be important as time goes on. For instance, while working through the division of marital assets, you may rush through to close out things as quickly and painlessly as possible but may end up missing less obvious things like insurance policies or other yet to mature assets where your spouse is the nominee.
You may also do yourself a disservice by not making the strongest case possible and end up having to compromise. In the case of a divorce that is to be settled in court, you could even cost yourself in monetary terms. This is especially true if your spouse and their divorce attorneys have taken care to leave no stone unturned in building a strong case.
If you were the cause for the split, then a sense of guilt could just as easily nudge you towards trying to gain quick closure. The trouble is, you could end up paying for your mistakes for the rest of your life. It is good to try and take a balanced view of things and be fair to yourself too.
Surround yourself with a strong team, including a good divorce attorney and a sound financial advisor. Take your time and let the procedure run its course, taking care to see it doesn’t drag out unduly and you should be fine.
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