4 Tough Questions to Ask Yourself Before Divorcing

No one would marry thinking that few years down the lane they would be so miserable or frustrated that they would be considering divorce as a choice. Rather, they enter marriage vows with enthusiasm and hope with determination to lead a lasting married life. However, marriage is not as easy as you may think if you are not prepared to sail across the rough patches.

Divorce is not an option for many until they have carefully considered many other choices and finally decided that splitting up is the only choice. If you are not sure whether you should go for it, here are some questions that you must ask yourself before making a decision.

Do I need to opt for divorce or do I prefer a better marriage with my spouse? 

You need to understand the difference between an unsalvageable marriage and an unhappy marriage. Many people often consider divorce even though they are going through ordinary experiences, however, what they are going through might be difficult and are in fact relationship challenges that cannot be resolved. If what you are looking forward to is a change, divorce is a drastic step.

Can I deal with the unpleasant consequences of divorce?

Divorce brings with it many changes and a lot of grief since it is the loss of your dream of a happy family. Disappointment, rejection, loneliness and hurts can grab the soul when you are in this highly vulnerable situation. You should have the support of your friends and family who can help you practically and emotionally when required. This over everything and get prepared for the real life situation.

Do I still love my partner?

Several people who tell that they need a divorce still have love and strong feelings for their partner. However, there is a lack of closeness and intimacy due to the on-going relationship struggle. Even if you find an ember or spark of love left, it is worthy to ask yourself, ‘is it possible to re-ignite it?’

Have I tried all that I can to improve my marriage?

Find out all the possibilities that can help you save your marriage and put in your efforts to work out through it. If your partner is also ready to take part in it, it would be great. Positive changes need efforts and commitment from your end.

Addressing these questions when you are contemplating a divorce can help you make the right decision.

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Gerald A. Maggio is an experienced Orange County divorce and family law lawyer and family law attorney located in Irvine, California, serving the Orange County and Riverside areas. Mr. Maggio assists clients with legal issues including divorce, legal separation, divorce mediation, child custody, prenuptial agreements, stepparent adoptions, and other family law issues. Mr. Maggio has practiced law in California since 1999, and founded The Maggio Law Firm in 2005, focusing exclusively on divorce and family law matters.