Tips For Dealing With Conflict During Divorce

Divorce is a hard time especially when couples are involved in a conflict with each other. There are many reasons as to what can give rise to a conflict. It could be about property, debt division, custody battle, alimony and a range of other issues which are commonly dealt with during a divorce. It is the job of a mediator to ensure that both parties have a mutual understanding before the divorce proceeding takes place. However, most of the times, it depends on the husband and wife to resolve the growing conflict between them.

If you’re heading for a divorce but finding it hard to resolve issues with your spouse, then the following tips might come in handy.

1. Hire a good divorce mediator

The first thing that you need to do is hire a good and experienced divorce mediator who can help resolve the issues between you and your partner. However, unless you offer help from your side, it will hard for even the best mediator to reach a common ground.

2. Focus on yourself

Before you start playing the blame game, make sure you’re not at fault. If you are, then try correcting them. If you’re not, then stay away from pointing fingers or blaming your partner for every minor mistake that lead to the divorce. Listen to your friends and family for advice and keep things to yourself.

3. Try finding the common ground

One of the best things that you can do to ensure that unnecessary conflict is avoided is to find a common ground which you and your spouse can agree upon. Make it in the form of an agreement and include in it all the necessary things which you both need to deal with. Try to discuss the matter with your spouse and if he/she is not willing to talk to you, then try to do it through common friends or family.

4. Don’t overreact

It is hard to complete a divorce proceeding with a straight face but overreacting to every small issue won’t take you anywhere either. If anything, it will mar your chances of getting a good divorce.

Conclusion

Divorces are hard and it gets harder when there are unresolved conflicts involved. First, make sure that you are not at fault and then everything else will work out. Hire a good divorce mediator to help you out in case nothing works out.

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Gerald A. Maggio is an experienced Orange County divorce and family law attorney and family law attorney located in Irvine, California, serving the Orange County and Riverside areas. Mr. Maggio assists clients with legal issues including divorce, legal separation, divorce mediation, child custody, prenuptial agreements, stepparent adoptions, and other family law issues. Mr. Maggio has practiced law in California since 1999, and founded The Maggio Law Firm in 2005, focusing exclusively on divorce and family law matters.