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Advice On How To Tell Your Husband You Want A Divorce

Top Orange County divorce attorneys; The Maggio Law FirmHave you made a decision to file for a divorce lately but do not know how to approach your husband about it?  This is a dilemma for women who want to end their marriage but are at a loss to how they can start the procedure.

Arriving at a decision to end the marriage

There are many women who may be thinking to end their marriage for some time now. In fact, there are several scenarios where the wife has been seriously contemplating it for some months. But, there are some women who spend years trying to go through the merits and the demerits of sticking to a marriage before they come to a final decision. However, it is not a bad strategy at all since making a decision to get divorced should not be done at haste or at the spur of a moment. However, in some cases, the husband of a woman may be completely oblivious to the fact that his wife is unhappy and has been so for quite some time now. So, when she comes out with her decision to end the marriage, it may be unexpected for him and he could be taken by surprise.

How should a woman break the news that she wants a divorce?

If you have reached a point when you have already contemplated and slept over the matter for long and have eventually made up your mind to go for a divorce, check out some of the tips below on how to tell your husband about it.

  • You need to prepare in advance about what you should tell him when you already have planned for it, there will be less scope of distraction while the discussion will take place.
  • Do not lose your cool but be vocal about your intention in a calm and firm manner. You should remember you are stating your husband on a matter, which has been already decided.
  • Try not to discuss the subject when either of you is using drugs or has been drinking.
  • You should use statements with the word “I” in them. This is more positive and less accusing in gone when you use the word “you” while discussing the issue with your spouse. For instance, “I have decided that we should end our marriage. I arrived at this decision after much thought about the issue”. The word “you” makes your husband feels that you are accusing him?

In case you are worried that your husband will not take it nicely when you break the news, you can ask him for meeting you in a restaurant or some other public place. Be prepared that your husband may get saddened, furious or shocked when he hears that you want to divorce him.

Getting divorced in California can be complicated.  Download our free eBook, 18 Important Things to Know About California Divorce to educate yourself on the process.  

divorce_attorneyGerald A. Maggio is an experienced Orange County divorce and family law lawyer and family law attorney located in Irvine, California, serving the Orange County and Riverside areas. Mr. Maggio assists clients with legal issues including divorce, legal separation, divorce mediation, child custody, prenuptial agreements, stepparent adoptions, and other family law issues. Mr. Maggio has practiced law in California since 1999, and founded The Maggio Law Firm in 2005, focusing exclusively on divorce and family law matters.



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