Being a Single Mom & Mastering Parenting After Divorce
It is a no-brainer that the divorcing of parents is probably one of the biggest hits a child can encounter in his or her life. That being said, it takes extra effort on the part of the separating parents to ensure that their little ones have to bear the minimum impact of the damage. Being a single mom is never easy. However, you can make sure that your child gets the right upbringing by following a few basic tips that we are sharing below.
Gather your support system
Single and recently divorced mothers can often feel terribly isolated and overwhelmed. Raising a kid is not a cakewalk, and doing it alone without a partner can be a more daunting prospect. The idea is to lean back on your close friends and family for support when you really need it. Don’t be hesitant to ask for help. If they genuinely care for you, they wouldn’t really mind babysitting your munchkin or picking them up from daycare when you have an urgent meeting.
Readjust your priorities
While you might be tempted to transform yourself into a superwoman overnight, you need to get your priorities straight. Be realistic about what you really need to do, and what you can give a miss. You need to lower your expectation from yourself and take a break. You don’t have to slave away at work all day, and also expect to keep you home tidy, serve only home cooked meals, and take care of your baby at the same time.
Get rid of the guilt
While it is understandable to feel partially responsible for your kid being brought up in a broken marriage, you need to stop bashing yourself for things that can no longer be fixed. You cannot keep battling with your thoughts of not being able to spend enough time with your little one or working too much or not being able to provide your baby the family love that he/she craves. Instead, focus on the brighter aspect of everything and live in the moment. Be happy that you have your kid with you and concentrate your energies in raising him/her the best way you can.
Pick up a hobby
While it might sound corny, finding time for pursuing a hobby will help you evolve into a better person. You don’t have to spend alot of money on doing things that you genuinely enjoy. Take up a painting class or join a book club. Focusing on what you like will not only help you let go of the bitter past but also provide you the hope for a better tomorrow!
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