Top 3 Tips to Avoid Sabotaging Your Divorce Settlement
Any couple who goes through separation and divorce will tell you that the process is extremely stressful, overwhelming, painful, time-consuming and emotional for them. For many separating couples, it was an experience that has crippled them financially. Though such negative experiences and emotions cannot be completely done away with, they can be reduced to a great extent. In fact, done divorces can go rather smoothly earn couples follow some of these following simple rules.
Rule 1: Be careful not to breach the other party’s trust
A breach can severely impair or destroy all that trust that took days to build up during the divorce settlement negotiation process. There could be blame games, allegations that can all trigger to those negative emotions once more. Altering a single term may now put a big question mark to all the other conditions, which were agreed upon by both the parties earlier. The worst may come when the other party refuses now to accept all the terms. Thus, all the negotiations back down to square one. All the efforts taken earlier as well as the time spent to reach the agreement earlier are wasted. Further, the couple has to again spend their time and money to restart the negotiations.
Rule 2: Do not go back on the decisions made earlier
The moment when both the parties start the process of mediation, there could be no or limited trust between them. A major element in the mediation process is to create the trust factor between the two parties by taking small but crucial steps. Such steps are created in form of certain agreements arrived on conditions during the process of mediation. While they keep agreeing on more terms, it enables them to make more important decisions quite simply since they have started trusting the process as well as each other. After arriving at an agreement on a certain issue, it is viewed as closed by both the parties. Very often, such agreements trigger arriving at other decisions, which are required to be made. Hence, if a party alters their mind or desires to back the term from a term initially agreed upon, it is seen as a breach.
Rule 3: Stop indulging in activities of self-sabotage
Self-sabotage is not something difficult to understand. It is merely doing something, which may have a negative impact on you. Many people fail to realize the impact of their actions such as going back on their decisions; behaviors send comments can be. In a situation like a divorce, such awareness is even more clouded by the negative emotions they are going through.
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