Ways of Dealing with Your Unreasonable Ex-Spouse

Finally, your divorce paperwork is done and the divorce judgment has come through. You now feel that it is time to make a fresh beginning in your life. But your former spouse may not have been able to come to terms with being divorced and you may foresee a continuation of the conflict and tension in the coming days even though your divorce is finalized. Such unreasonable behavior from your ex may hamper your children’s peace of mind too. You do not want your or your children’s lives to be miserable. Your ex can cause troubles with some major issues like child support and child visitation after the divorce judgment comes in and treats them as tools to continue conflict even after the marriage has ended. So, here are some of the ways to deal with your unreasonable former spouse.

Do not accept defeat just because you are scared

Your former spouse would have spent quite a few years with you and so they know you in and out. They can, therefore, use your weaknesses as a tool to get the better of you? Your ex can yes your fears and apprehensions to try and accomplish what they want. In other words, your fear is a powerful tool in your ex’s hand that is hostile to you now. So, be wary of their attempts to manipulate and control you through your weaknesses. In a way, it is also a reflection on their fear for you though it may sound contradictory. Do not give your former spouse an opportunity to curb your ability to recreate a new life after your divorce.

Try to be immune to what is being said about you

Often, your ex-spouse who is hostile towards you may use nasty words not only to you but to others who may be around you. In fact, such people can use derogatory words about their former spouses to anyone who is willing to listen to them. It may not be unusual to defend yourself when you hear such tales statements being spread about you and your character. But self-defense may not put an end to such gossips. When you continue to respond, you may also appear to be unreasonable like your ex. Compassion is the best way to respond back to your vicious ex who maligns and ill-treats you.

Try to avoid conflicts

When you engage in a conflict, things may only take a worse turn. When you behave in the same manner as your unreasonable ex-does, tension may further escalate. When you receive nasty threats like they will snatch the kids from you, just refrain from responding.

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Gerald A. Maggio is an experienced Orange County divorce and family law lawyer and family law attorney located in Irvine, California, serving the Orange County and Riverside areas. Mr. Maggio assists clients with legal issues including divorce, legal separation, divorce mediation, child custody, prenuptial agreements, stepparent adoptions, and other family law issues. Mr. Maggio has practiced law in California since 1999, and founded The Maggio Law Firm in 2005, focusing exclusively on divorce and family law matters.