How to Move Forward With Your Decision to Divorce

You may be in a state a shock and stuck with going ahead with your divorce for several reasons. Fear is one of the prime reasons that may make you feel uncertain and hesitant about your big decision. After all, divorce is a big change in one’s life where no one likes to be in. It will make you come out of your comfort zone that you had been used to and were familiar with. No matter what kind of emotions you are going through, it is crucial to know that what you are going through is not unusual. But such dilemma and emotions are temporary in nature.  As you take your initial steps in this journey, you will be able to have a control over these feelings and the healing process will gradually start.

Below are some of the ways to move forward with your decision to get divorced.

List down all those negative emotions that are making you indecisive and confused

You should try identifying and making a list of your top three fears that are holding you back to proceed with the divorce. There is no harm in feeling the fear but list down the steps you should take so that they do not become a reality. Finding out solutions is the only method to combat fear.

List down all the reasons that will point out why divorce is the best possible step for you

Each human being is unique with his/her own skills, talents and strengths. As you move towards the decision of taking a divorce from your partner remember that you have every right to do something that is in your best interests. You will feel more motivated and strong when you concentrate on your strengths rather than focusing on your fears. It is important to have faith in yourself and be prepared to cope with whatever awaits you while your divorce proceedings continue. Try to overcome your fears by embracing your potential.

Have a proper support system around you so that you can move forward with confidence

Your close friends and supportive family members are going to be a great resource of strength while the Orange County divorce proceedings are continuing. So, surround yourself with people who you think will stick to you in your difficult times since you could be feeling vulnerable and somewhat lost. You need love and affection, which your support system can give you in abundance. When you start leaning on your dear ones during such trying times, your transition period will be much easier and you can attain your goals with great ease. So, after you have your network of support system in place, have found out your biggest fears and learned how to fight them, it is time to get ready to end your marriage.

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Gerald A. Maggio is an experienced Orange County divorce and family law lawyer and family law attorney located in Irvine, California, serving the Orange County and Riverside areas. Mr. Maggio assists clients with legal issues including divorce, legal separation, divorce mediation, child custody, prenuptial agreements, stepparent adoptions, and other family law issues. Mr. Maggio has practiced law in California since 1999, and founded The Maggio Law Firm in 2005, focusing exclusively on divorce and family law matters.