Dealing With Abuse During Marriage

A couple goes through several ups and downs in their relationship when a marriage becomes rocky and is a troubled one. Contrary to what many people would like to believe, some key causes of divorces are infidelity, domestic violence, and emotional or physical violence. There can be different forms of abusive behavior such as financial, physical or emotional. Such behavior can have a negative impact on the stability of a marriage while the abused partner may go through a disturbed mental state. If you are a woman, read on to know the different forms of abusive behavior and ways of handling them.

Verbal abuse 

When your husband uses filthy language and tries to demean you or screams at you frequently or treats you shabbily in the presence of his family members or friends, they are clear symptoms of you being verbally abused. It is high time when both of you should sit together when you should tell him to stop such demeaning treatment immediately. You should let him know that such behavior is affecting your relationship deeply.

Physical abuse or domestic violence 

Such abusive behaviors are usually meted out when your partner tries to dominate and control you. There is clearly an anger issue with your husband and so he is trying to use violence as a tool to control you and resolve matters according to his terms. Your husband will even try threatening you when in his abusive best and try to put you down. Such behavior can depress you and can even demolish your self-confidence. In case you are subjected to acts of domestic violence by your spouse, your first and most important step would be to identify it as early as possible. You should never tolerate such acts and take corrective measures to remain safe. It is crucial to communicate what is happening with you and involve a reputable marriage counselor when you feel such issues can be sorted out through therapy. However, if nothing improves, then it is better to end your marriage at the first available opportunity. After all, every woman should respect her sanity and worth.

Financial of economic abuse 

Keeping a close tab on every penny that you spend, not allowing you to have a separate bank account, forcing you to make certain career options and forcing families so that you are unable to pursue your job are some of the examples of going through a financially abusive relationship or marriage. It is a major concern for all those women who depend on their spouses financially.

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Gerald A. Maggio is an experienced Orange County divorce and family law attorney and family law attorney located in Irvine, California, serving the Orange County and Riverside areas. Mr. Maggio assists clients with legal issues including divorce, legal separation, divorce mediation, child custody, prenuptial agreements, stepparent adoptions, and other family law issues. Mr. Maggio has practiced law in California since 1999, and founded The Maggio Law Firm in 2005, focusing exclusively on divorce and family law matters.