Divorcing And Dating At Age 50 And Older
If you’re getting divorced at 50, dating often comes across as a ludicrous thought. The good news is that more than 60% of divorced people over the age of 50 in California are found to be dating or in a committed relationship.
There are a million factors to keep in mind while dating after you’re 50. And let’s be honest, nobody is getting any younger, so going slow is not really an option. It’s a common notion that men find love with younger women, but, in reality, senior dating is quite healthy and common.
There are a few factors to keep in mind while dating at 50:
Give yourself time to heal
A divorce can most often be very painful and deeply scarring with painful memories to deal with. It’s important to let yourself heal and get a closure with issues you have regarding your divorce. If necessary, consult a therapist to heal those painful memories and give yourself the closure you need to begin your second life.
Check-in your baggage and start afresh
Let’s face it, at 50 you’re bound to have some baggage. You’ve lived an adventurous life so far and it’s a matter of pride to show off your war scars. So, don’t cling onto your regrets as a burden, just write it out as experience. After all, your date out there has a lot to discuss about his too!
So put away that baggage and start afresh. You could just be a 16-year-old going on your first date, except this time, you have a lot more stories to tell.
Make your ex a part of your past
Whether you are still close to your ex or you prefer keeping no contact at all, when you’re dating, keep him/her off the table. You may have repressed a lot of anger and frustration by things associated with your ex, which may give way to reacting poorly over a pet peeve you have with your date.
Focus on having fun
You are dating again for a reason. It’s time to focus on what you want from your relationship. Let your hair down and be honest. Work towards getting a date who is looking for the same from a relationship. And while you’re at it, make sure you have a whole lot of fun!
Go ahead and enter phase 2 of your life!
Dating after a divorce is definitely daunting. Take baby steps and seek the relationship you deserve. Step into the new chapter of life. There’s very little to fear given the immense experience you have with making relationships work. You are entering a new exciting stage of your life. Have some fun and find your soul mate.
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