Use These Survival Techniques for Post-Divorce Parenting

The first few years after the divorce can be quite strenuous and a roller coaster ride of emotions especially when it comes to the question of co-parenting the kids. While it is not a cakewalk to begin with, many parents learn about parenting post divorce by trial and errors. Slowly, the behavior of the other parent becomes more predictable through experience and one knows how to handle them in a better way. The level of confidence starts going up with time. Soon it becomes easy for the parents and their kids to balance their lives well.

Check out some of these survival techniques to see you through post-divorce parenting if you are finding things quite difficult to manage.

Try to assess the mental and physical health of your children

It is not an easy job to know exactly how your kids are feeling emotionally. Hence, you may ask them questions like, are they confused about some matters? How are they doing? Which is the best day in a week for them?

Self-assessment is very crucial

How well is your financial, mental and physical health? You should note down what requires your attention and what is working in your favor. You should also ensure that you do not rush to get candid and honest responses.

Try to review your support system

Your support system includes a number of professionals like teachers, lawyers, mediators, financial advisors, therapists and physicians. Your support group may also comprise of a social network of support groups, family, and friends,

Find out the areas where you need guidance or help and the tasks you can do on your own

There could be people in your support group who have a rich set of connections or information. Thus, you may get help in areas where you need more knowledge or experience.

Try to indulge in activities that are close to your heart or you are passionate about

You should find out me time and do all those little tasks that give you pleasure. Read your favorite book, go for a walk, hang at your favorite place with some close friends or go for a picnic with the kids on a weekend. After all, even little things can keep you going.

Do not indulge in long term planning

It is better to concentrate more on the coming months and weeks as no one knows what the future holds.  It is not that important to be prepared with all the answers. So, just take small steps at a time. It can be difficult to do so but not entirely impossible.

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Gerald A. Maggio is an experienced Orange County divorce and family law attorney and family law attorney located in Irvine, California, serving the Orange County and Riverside areas. Mr. Maggio assists clients with legal issues including divorce, legal separation, divorce mediation, child custody, prenuptial agreements, stepparent adoptions, and other family law issues. Mr. Maggio has practiced law in California since 1999, and founded The Maggio Law Firm in 2005, focusing exclusively on divorce and family law matters.