Protecting Children During A Divorce

Posted by: Gerald A. Maggio, Esq.

child custody attorneys Orange County; The Maggio Law FirmThe worst part about a divorce is that it affects more than just two people. Couples who have children understand how difficult a divorce proceeding becomes once their children become involved. The biggest dilemma is that you can’t tell them directly and you can’t ignore them either. Moreover, different kids react differently and then there is their age that needs to be considered. Handling and protecting children should be the number one priority for parents in a divorce. In California, a child’s preference is given importance when making decisions related to custody.

Keep things normal

It’s tough to act normal when you know you’re heading for a sure-shot divorce but do it for the sake of the kids. Or at least when your kids are around, make sure that you don’t break into arguments and fights. Children are highly prone to mental trauma and the worst part is sometimes you won’t even know that are suffering from mental stress.

Don’t divide the children

You might be heading for a separation but your children are not. It’s true that your children will stay with only one of you but that does not mean they should get the feeling that they have been separated too. Keep things amicable between you and your partner and create a good plan of action.

Protect them

Protecting your children both emotionally and financially should be your primary duty as a parent. Create a good child support plan and discuss visiting times with your partner. Make sure both of you agree to the same plan and stick to it. Try meeting as a family and go out together as much as you can.

Agree on the custody rights

Custody rights is an important issue and you must discuss it with your spouse before you go ahead with the divorce proceeding. It will be easier for the both of you if you know the result of the custody battle before the separation takes place.

Conclusion

Children are an important issue when it comes to divorce because a bad divorce causes stress and mental trauma on the young minds. As parents, it becomes your duty to protect your children from harm. Discuss issues like custody, visitation hours and child support with your partner before you decide to go ahead with the divorce. Work out a common plan which both of you are comfortable following. It will save your children from unnecessary damage.

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How To Be A Good Single Father

Posted by: Gerald A. Maggio, Esq.

fathers rights attorneys Orange County; The Maggio Law FirmIf being a single mother is tough, being a single father is never an easy thing either. Many people think that fathers who get divorced can easily go back to their routine before they were married. But it’s not true. After becoming a father, the lifestyle and mentality of a man changes. Especially, if he’s handling kids. Most fathers who have kids need to balance time between his job and family. It becomes tough and so, here are few tips that will help fathers become better parents in the long run.

  1. Create a good schedule

For working fathers, scheduling is the most important thing. They should discuss the issue with their boss and work out a routine which includes sufficient time for both the job and kids. They can work during the time when the kids are with their mother. It should be mentioned in the parental plan and the mother must agree to the arrangement. It will help fathers create a good work-life balance.

  1. Get help

Some men like doing everything on their own but they should keep in mind that becoming an efficient father is the goal, not becoming an efficient worker. It’s alright to seek the help of near and dear ones when needed. They need someone to take care of the kids when he or his ex. is not around to help.

  1. Get organized

For fathers who are not taking care of their kids, things might look easy but be assured that it’s not. More than often, such fathers will be tempted to go back to their old ways but they should refrain from doing so. Moreover, they should keep their life organized so that they don’t suffer from emotional problems. There must be specific timings and specific order for doing everything.

  1. Teach kids

A child’s development depends on what he/she learns from the parents. Single fathers should utilize the time they spend with their kids to teach them about different things. It is one of the best ways in which a single father can make use of the time he has.

Conclusion

It’s not easy being a single father especially when someone is juggling between work and family. However, there are ways in which an individual can become an efficient father. Creating a good parental plan and spending quality time with the kids works best and helps fathers make the best of it.

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Relocating & Modifying Custody and Visitation in California

Posted by: Gerald A. Maggio, Esq.

Orange County divorce lawyers; The Maggio Law FirmRelocation is something that everybody experiences at least once in their lives and it’s something that can happen even to a divorced parent.  There could be a range of reasons why a divorced parent might relocate with their kids. They might simply want a change of scene or move closer to friends and family.

However, relocation can cause problems for the non-custodial parent, especially in the visitation/custody side of things.

When to File

The non-custodial parent can file for modification at any time. The court may deem such a modification necessary if it is in line with the child’s best interests. The parent must be able to indicate a “significant change of circumstances” to support the request for modification.

However, all said and done, it is still not that easy to modify primary custody. In most cases, the primary order is seen as correct. However, there are certain conditions under which this can be challenged.

For starters, modification can be sought, as mentioned earlier, if it is in the child’s best interest. Here, best interests can encompass a range of factors. One of the key factors usually considered is contact with both parents and family stability.

Even the child’s preference can be considered by the courts. In fact, California does not follow an age cut-off rule like other states. So, the child’s age will not be a major hindrance. However, the judge’s own interpretation may play a role here. Most judges tend to ignore the opinions of children aged below 7.

Another factor that plays a role here includes co-parenting skills. Judges generally don’t side with a parent who is unwilling or unable to help the child build a healthy relationship with the non-custodial parent. So, there is hope if it can be proven that the relocation was done to get away from the non-custodial parent.

Get in Touch with a Lawyer

Though achievable, the modification of a child custody/visitation order can be a tricky process. So, the best way to move forward is to get in touch with a lawyer who is experienced in such matters.  An experienced lawyer can guide you on how to go about this.

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Tips for Preparing for Child Custody in California Court

Posted by: Gerald A. Maggio, Esq.

Orange County divorce lawyer; The Maggio Law FirmIt is in the best interests of both the spouses and their kids to try for an out of court custody settlement without bitterness or complications while getting divorced in California. After all, you would not want to make things even messier while parting from your partner.

Here are some of those handy tips to prepare for a child custody case if the negotiations on your out of court settlement fail:

  • List down all those witnesses who could be summoned when your case goes to trial.
  • You should follow the orders of the court thoroughly with respect to issues related to your kids, no matter what your spouse is doing.
  • Maintain all the details related to the communications related to issues related to child custody along with the timesharing details.
  • In case your child is not living with you, it is recommended that you personally pick or drop them, every time you meet them.
  • You need to collect sufficient evidence for proving your case of child custody.
  • If possible, try to review the style of your parenting so that it can be improved. –Often the judges make their decisions on visitation and child custody, looking at what is best for your children. It has been observed for instance that when the kids have been staying with their mom since the time their parents separated, judges usually like to maintain status quo for the interests of the kids.
  • You need to behave in a responsible manner so that your kids are safe and away from all types of harm. Is your spouse abusing your children? If that is the case, you need to consult agencies or professionals who are experts in dealing with handling cases of child abuse. Such professionals have the necessary expertise and experience to appreciate your predicament as they are skilled to deal with domestic violence and are the right kind of people who have the capability of safeguarding your kids when the divorce proceeding is going on and also after your divorce.
  • It is a sensible decision to consult an experienced attorney who has the expertise to deal with disputes related to child custody in California.
  • You need to be completely honest with the attorney about your present lifestyle and personal history.
  • If you are unaware about the process of dispute related to child custody, request your attorney to explain it to you.

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What Role does a Child’s Opinion Play in Contested Custody Cases?

Posted by: Gerald A. Maggio, Esq.

family law attorney Orange County; The Maggio Law FirmWhen a parent couple decides to get divorced, one of the biggest worries is around child custody. In the event that they fail to arrive at a mutual agreement on their own, the court will have to intervene in the matter and the judge would take a decision on initial custody. This implies that at least in the beginning, the court will decide where the child lives and the division of visitation and custody between the two partners.

The U.S. court system is often faced with the challenge of protecting the best interests of a child in high-conflict custody cases. However, lawyers and psychologists have been working together in order to better support the children’s well-being in such situations.

When there is isn’t any visible harm or disadvantage to the child, a court may decide to stay with the pre-existing living arrangements for the child, especially if he/she is fairly young. For instance, if the child has been staying with the mother since the time of separation, the court may decide to make that a permanent arrangement (unless it is proved to have a negative impact on the well-being of the child).

Are the child’s wishes important?

When the contested custody case involves slightly older children, especially teenagers, courts would also give consideration to the child’s opinion. In fact, it is important for the court to duly consider the opinion of a child with “sufficient age and capacity”.

In some cases, the wishes of children as young as 7 or 8 years have also been acknowledged by courts.

It isn’t necessary for courts to interview a child in order to comprehend his/her wishes in a contested custody case. Sometimes, the court might depend on the report submitted by the mediator about their interaction with the child. Alternatively, the minor’s counsel may have made certain statements which could be helpful in analyzing the child’s wishes. Irrespective of the age or capacity of a child, the court isn’t obligated to agree to their wishes. But due consideration is important in certain cases.

How does the court decide whether or not to consider a child’s opinion?

There are usually two circumstances under which the court considers it important to give weight to a child’s opinion in a contested custody case:

  • If it is in the best interest of the child to express his/her preference and also testify it.
  • If the court thinks that the child is of a suitable age to have an intelligent preference. Usually children who are 14 years or above are allowed to express their preferences.

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How Does Having a Criminal Record Affect Child Custody?

Posted by: Gerald A. Maggio, Esq.

Orange County divorce lawyers; The Maggio Law Firm If there are children involved in a divorce and there is a battle over which spouse gets custody of the child or children, then either spouse having a criminal past or record can lower or even completely eliminate their chances of getting joint/shared or sole custody of the child. Also, one spouse can use the past criminal record or history of the other spouse to eliminate their chances of child custody and even rights of visitation. This is permitted by state laws in California under certain legal provisions, hence it is vital that the spouse with the criminal past hire a professional divorce lawyer to help fight his/her case.

Best interests of the child

Section 3011 of the California family code deals with the best interest standard. This section basically deals with what the family or civil courts take into consideration while determining the terms of child custody. One of the main factors that the courts consider is what is in the best interest of the child. So if one spouse has been engaged in criminal activities or conduct in the past this would be a major detrimental factor to the courts while determining which spouse should get custody of the child. The family courts will consider the following factors while determining child custody:

  • Whether either spouse has had a history of domestic abuse or violence towards any child that he is related to by blood, or an adopted child or any other child that is under their care and supervision.
  • Whether the spouse has been violent with or has shown violent behavior towards the other spouse.
  • Whether the spouse has a history of alcohol abuse or any kind of substance abuse.
  • Whether the spouse has a history of criminal activities or malpractices or any kind of criminal conduct or behavior in the past.

The court will carefully consider all these factors while determining which spouse will be granted custody of the child. The above factors also help to determine what would be best for the child and the child’s best interests are always put first to ensure his safety, happiness and good future.

A past history of criminal conduct would include any felonies and misdemeanors that fall under any of the categories mentioned in section 3011 of the Family Code. Custody and visitation rights would be affected based on the type and severity of the offense, time elapsed since the commission of the offense and expungment of the offense. These offenses include sex and hate crimes, child abuse, etc. The more serious or violent the offense the higher the likelihood of the spouse losing custody or visitation rights.

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How To Protect Kids From The Negative Effects Of Custody Battles

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Orange County child custody; The Maggio Law FirmOne of the toughest things to deal with in a divorce is a custody battle. It is hard for the non-custodial parents to stay separated from their children. But more than the parents, the main focus should be on the children. In a state that keeps a child’s preference first before anything else during a custody battle, it is nothing less than a crime to ignore the negative effects that can harm a child’s psychology. Children are sensitive and it is very important to understand how they feel and how they will react to a divorce between their parents.

Keep them away from arguments

As a parent, it is advised that you keep your arguments to yourself. Don’t go into an argument with your ex. spouse if your children are nearby. Your children are smarter than you think them to be and they pay a lot of attention to their surroundings. When they see you constantly arguing and bickering it burdens them with feelings of anxiety and fear. After a certain period of time, the fear converts into anger and they can become a threat to the society. The safety and comfort of your children should be the first thing on your parenting list and protecting them should be your first priority.

Don’t react emotionally all the time

When you react emotionally towards your ex. spouse, you are not only causing him/her harm but you’re also causing harm to your children. Your children grow up thinking you are a “bad” person and sharing the same roof will cause them trouble. Acting unreasonably emotional for no particular reason jeopardizes your position as the primary caretaker of your children. You must keep yourself safe before you can keep your children safe.

Interact with them

Act as if everything is normal and allow your children to adapt to the change. Interact with them as much as you can. Interaction plays an important role in parenting and positive interaction will definitely protect them from the negative effects of custody battle.

Conclusion

Protecting children from the negative effects of divorce is the most important factor during custody battles. Your behavior towards your ex-spouse is very important because your children are watching you and since they are very sensitive, it is crucial to maintain a positive behavior in their presence. Interact with your children and keep them engaged in different activities.

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Post-Divorce Parenting Tips For Fathers

Posted by: Gerald A. Maggio, Esq.

fathers rights attorneys Orange County; The Maggio Law FirmPost-divorce parenting fears are not exclusive to mothers. During a custody battle, California courts can grant custody to the mother in some cases, but shared custody is much more common, depending on the circumstances.  Divorced fathers can nevertheless find it difficult to adjust to their new situation.

Here are some tips that will help post-divorced fathers get through the situation.

  1. Create a routine

The most important thing to do is to create a routine where a specific time is allotted for the kids. For the rest of the time, fathers need to keep themselves busy with either work or house chores. Fathers need to remember that their children too are going through the pangs of divorce. Having a routine will help them adjust to the situation in an orderly manner.

  1. Make your child your no. 1 priority

Fathers need to keep in mind that their children come first. Since post-divorce lives are different, it often becomes difficult to keep up with the child’s demand. However, you need the take the time out to listen to your kids whenever they need you. You child’s need should be your no.1 priority.

  1. Share a common ground with your child

As time passes by, teach your children to cope up with the situation. You have your own needs and your children has theirs. Share a common ground where both of you are comfortable doing things together. It could be a small hobby or it could be something related to academics.

  1. Plan activities

Find creative ways to spend time with your kids. It will help you keep your mind off problems and will help you focus on the bigger goals in life. There are fun ways in which you can spend quality time with your kids and such activities will help strengthen the relationship between the two of you.

  1. Don’t involve your child in your new love affair

It’s natural to fall in love again after your failed marriage but introducing your love interest to your kids might be a bit too much. At least, in the initial few months or years after a divorce when your kids are coping up with the situation, it’s wrong to have your kids meet someone who can very well become their mother.

Conclusion

Divorce is a tough thing for both parents to manage. While mothers have their own problems to deal with, fathers often find it difficult to deal with the situation. Maintain a healthy relationship with their kids is the key to fight post-divorce parenting fears.

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When Can A Custodial Parent Move A Child Out Of State?

Posted by: Gerald A. Maggio, Esq.

Orange County divorce attorneys; The Maggio Law FirmDuring a divorce, parents need to take extra care when they are making custody arrangements for their children. The arrangements and custodial plan should include important aspects like the child’s health, education and welfare. It should also contain the physical presence of the child within a mentioned geographical location to protect the non-custodial parent’s visitation rights.

So, what happens when the custodial parent decides to move the child out-of-state for a period of time. According to the California law, a parent cannot do that unless he/she has obtained a court order to do so. If the custodial parent relocates a minor child without approval from the court, he/she may attract fine or even jail time.

So, when is it possible for the custodial parent to relocate children?

When the non-custodial parent consents to the relocation

If the non-custodial parent agrees to the relocation of the child in a written agreement, the custodial parent can move the child out-of-sate after a judge approves the agreement.

If the other parent does not consent to the relocation, a co-parenting lawyer or mediator can be hired to handle the situation. And in cases where mediation fails, the custodial parent must file a petition in the court to move the child out-of-state.

When the court agrees to the custodial parent’s decision

California courts will usually compare the pros and cons of moving the child to a different location. It will look at factors like safety, health and development. If the court feels that the relocation will be beneficial for the child, it can agree to the custodial parent’s demand. However, it will also consider the non-custodial parent’s rights and decide if the relocation will have any negative effect on the parent.

In some cases, the court has the right to agree to the custodial parent’s demands unless there is gross violation of the custodial plan. In such cases, the court won’t consider the non-custodial pleas and will allow the custodial parent to relocate.

Conclusion

A custodial parent’s wish to move his/her children out-of-state depends on many factors. The non-custodial parent needs to agree to the relocation and must provide his/her consent on the agreement form before any change can take place. The court’s decision depends heavily on the child’s condition if the relocation takes place. Additionally, the court has the power to agree to the custodial parent and allow the parent and child to relocate despite what the non-custodial might feel.  The laws in California relating to “move-away” cases are complex and it is advisable to seek the advice of a family law attorney before considering a move with your child.

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How Do California Courts Handle Move-Away Custody Cases?

Posted by: Gerald A. Maggio, Esq.

Orange County divorce lawyers; The Maggio Law FirmA “move-away case” involves the custodial parent moving far away from the non-custodial parents which disrupts the custodial agreements established by the court. The distance does not matter as long as the agreement is interrupted.

Move-away cases are hard to deal with because it can be an unfair effect on custodial rights for the non-custodial parent. The request to move away from the other parent can have negative impact on the child as well. Unless there are clear violations by the non-custodial parents, move-away requests by the custodial parent can be dicey situations.

Custody relocation laws

Currently, in California, there are no laws that prohibit parents with sole custody from relocating to a different location. However, custody plans can have specific orders that prevent custodial parents from changing geographical location without the knowledge of the other parent. Parents who wish to relocate with their children should file for a move-away petition with the court. In cases where the judge feels that the child’s life will remained unchanged even after the relocation, a positive judgment will be passed.

On the other hand, a non-custodial parent can relocate any time he/she feels like but without the child. Also, in some cases, non-custodial parents are prohibited from taking their children across the state border without the consent of a judge.

In most cases, when relocation becomes necessary for either of the parent, new custodial plans need to be worked out. The new plans should include provisions for both parents to relocate without changing too much of the custodial agreement.

Mediation

Mediation works best in cases where parents fail to reach an agreement. Move-away cases require mediation because both parents need to be on the same page before new plans can be made. Divorce mediation is important for both parents as it helps improve understanding between them and provides the best solution.

In cases where the mediation does not work, the court orders for a second hearing. It will go through the case and decide what’s best for the child. If the court feels that relocating won’t affect the child’s health or mental condition, it will award the custodial parent the upper hand.

Conclusion

Move-away issues can be tricky if they are not dealt with proper care. For parents who wish to relocate, new custodial plans must be created by the parties or otherwise by the court. Mediation can play an important role and can help parents decide what’s best for their child.

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