Think Twice Before Ending a Low-Conflict Marriage

Many marriage experts would recommend you to continue your low-conflict marriage instead of getting a divorce. There are some for whom divorce is an essential procedure. However, there are many other couples who have low-conflict marriages where divorce may not be a mandatory step. These are the cases where a parent should seriously contemplate whether going for a divorce is really worth it or not for the sake of their children.

Why it is important to protect your kids

As parents, it is a natural tendency to protect your kids from various kinds of adversities and danger so that they can enjoy healthily and long lives. According to statistics, divorce could adversely affect the health and well-being of a child. Most marriage counselors would advise to try and work out things and resolve marital concerns rather than simply going ahead and filing a divorce. Parents really have a moral duty to keep their families intact when the marriages are low-conflict in nature. This is because several research studies have proved time and again that not keeping a family intact could have an adverse impact on the kids.

In fact, divorce is a scenario where both the parents have a tendency to carry forward and download all their tensions and worries to their children.  All the finer things such as security, home, family, and so on can be destroyed when a divorce takes place. When parents walk out of their marriages, the kids may have to clean up all that mess.

Some consequences of divorce on a child

Preschooler kids in the age-group of three to five can demonstrate feelings of regression when they see their parents getting divorced. Moreover, a growing fear of getting separated from their custodial parents and sleep disturbances are common traits found in many of the affected kids. Many preschoolers exhibit a strong yearning for their non-custodial parents.

Meanwhile, children in their adolescence can respond to the divorce of their parents by acting violent, being suicidal in nature, and going through acute depression. Such kids often concentrate on the moral issues related to the divorce and become judgmental about the actions and decisions of their parents.

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Gerald A. Maggio is an experienced Orange County divorce and family law lawyer and family law attorney located in Irvine, California, serving the Orange County and Riverside areas. Mr. Maggio assists clients with legal issues including divorce, legal separation, divorce mediation, child custody, prenuptial agreements, stepparent adoptions, and other family law issues. Mr. Maggio has practiced law in California since 1999, and founded The Maggio Law Firm in 2005, focusing exclusively on divorce and family law matters.