Child custody matters can be very stressful. It’s up to the adults in the situation to try to keep the stress to a minimum. There are several ways to do this.
One of the most important things to remember is that you have to do what’s best for the children now. You can’t make decisions based on how they’ll impact you or your ex. Instead, focus only on the children.
#1: Good co-parenting benefits the children
Even if you and your ex don’t get along, you should still hope for the best for them. The children can benefit when things are going well for both parents. Anything that affects your ex can also affect your kids, so never wish for the worst.
#2: Direct communication between co-parents is best
It might be challenging to communicate with your ex, but it’s for the best. Never try to use the children as messengers because they might not relay the information correctly. Plus, it might be hard for them to hear the replies and statements from their parents. That could make them feel “caught in the middle” and frustrated.
#3: Kids can adjust to family changes but may need help
Learning how to live in two homes is a big step for a child, but it’s one they can do if they have help from the adults they count on. They may need some help processing their emotions so letting them know you’re there for them may be beneficial.
Child custody matters are much easier to handle when everyone is on the same page. Take the time to get the parenting plan together quickly so you and your ex know what’s happening with the children. This should be set based on the kids’ needs right now. As their needs change, the plan can be modified to reflect their needs then. Some child custody cases may need creative solutions to the issues, so be sure to consider what’s truly best for your children.