

Breaking the News of Divorce to Adult Children
Once the kids are all grown up, they’ll either be studying in college, working their sweat off or starting a life, having kids and experiencing all that their parent’s did; responsibilities, commitments and relationships. For them, their mom and dad are the ideals of a successful marital life. So when the same parents decide to get an Orange County divorce, fighting one another in court, it comes as a shock that could shake their world to the core.
Hence, it is important that you soften the blow by breaking the news to them properly.
A Family Huddle
This is perhaps the biggest news you’ve had to break to them. So make sure that you have all of your children gathered at one place to hear the news. Both the spouses, not just one, needs to talk to them in person, to build a mild background for their decision before breaking the news.
Yet, whenever that is done, it has to be done subtly. Prepare for what you have to say to the children and the most important thing is presenting the decision as one that is taken mutually, in consultation. Now is not the time to put blame on one another.
Be Prepared for Questions and Shock
This is not ordinary news for your adult children and you shouldn’t expect them to simply take it in their stride and move on. Once the news has settled, they will react to it. Their reaction can be one of two things; they will ask a lot of questions, express dissatisfaction or anger or do both simultaneously.
Remember they are no longer kids, so their questions may be pin point, and ones that make you uncomfortable answering. The fact that they are adults will be highlighted in their questions. Some children may even break down. Irrespective of your feeling towards the other spouse or the reason for you to get an Orange County divorce, you need to reassure your children of your presence for them as a parent. Tell them that you will put up a united front, whenever the need arises. This will go a long way in preparing them for things to come.
When you end your relation with your spouse, the way you end it will leave a lasting impression on your children. It is best that you choose Orange County divorce mediation instead of a court fought divorce, since that is more peaceful and cooperative.
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