Contemplating Divorce: Is Your Marriage Sick or Dead?
There are some who appear to always be happy in relationships including in a marital relationship. They do not have anything to complain about and they are not known to fight or argue with their spouses ever. These are fortunate people who seek to be perfectly suited for a marriage and can live happily ever after. They lead lives free of any kind of drama while others struggle to live in marital bliss. On the other hand, there are some people who seem to be at loggerheads with their spouses quite frequently and even consider asking for a divorce and going their separate ways.
Couples should try to cure their “sick” relationship prior to filing for a divorce
Are you wondering the implications of a “sick” relationship? Do you have one in your marriage too? Have you thought how to make your sick relationship better?
There are so many ways to treat the tell-tale signs of a bad relationship. You may decide to pamper yourself thoroughly by going on a reckless shopping spree. Alternatively, you may retaliate to your spouse’s taunting comments by being equally aggressive verbally. Some people even go to the extent of being emotionally disconnected from their spouses and avoid sharing intimate moments or direct conversation. While you may feel slightly better, your relationship will continue to be a sick one. Hence, it is a sensible idea to deal with the real cause instead of simply treating the symptoms. Here are some of those suggestions to improve your sick marriage:
Upgrading your attitude
A relationship can be a one-sided or one of the spouses may feel that their partner is not contributing enough to make the relationship better. All these are issues, which can be addressed quite easily and then resolved. Instead of complaining about your spouse to your friends on social media, both of you can consult a good marriage counselor who can help you to fix the contentious issues that are increasing the distance between both of you.
Improved time management
Spend more time with your spouse and engage in meaningful dialogs. The disconnect you both face may be because you are not spending enough time in each other’s company.
Realize that your relationship is dead
Despite putting the best possible efforts to improve the relationship if you and your spouse find there is an impasse, there could be two key reasons for that. Firstly, both of you did not address the core issues to work on. Secondly and sadly, the relationship cannot be salvaged at any cost. While it is sad news, you may have to consider going ahead with a split.
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