

Understanding That Divorce Can Still Impact Adult Children
While grown up children are not unfamiliar with the concept of divorce, seeing it happening with their own parents may feel differently. So, as parents of these children, here are a few things which matter to them a lot.
Your divorce can shake their world
As parents, you may feel that your divorce will cause less hurt to them since they are grown up now, but it is not so. Though your relationship might not have been a perfect one, they had always seen both of you together. Do not be surprised when you find them retreating into a shell in shock after learning your plans to divorce. And you need to take a speedy remedial action so that they do not take any drastic measure like leaving the home out of anger and shock. Moreover, your children will need some time to get adjusted to such a big and sudden change in their lives, so it will be wrong to expect that everything will be fine with them soon.
Your decision to divorce may create uncertainty
When grown-up children see their parents happy in a marriage, it helps them to realize the importance of the institution of marriage. Parents’ marriage had been an important part of their lives after all. Their entire ideas about family, bonding and relationship can get severely impacted when your decision to separate reaches them. They will start questioning whether what they have been witnessing through their growing years were real or not. They have doubts about the real meaning of love and whether their parents had really loved each other or not. Chances are that they may start doubting even their own relationships.
They would wonder if they can lead a happy married life or they will ever be ready for a long-term commitment or not. Parents have a crucial role to play at this juncture and help their children to understand that they would be able to make a variety of choices. Moreover, history does not always necessarily repeat itself. They need a reassurance that they should try learning from your mistakes in life so that they have a great future ahead.
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