How To Deal With A Pending Divorce While Being Pregnant

The relationship between couples may not be the same always.  Things can change where once souses were madly in love with one another and later  they hate the sight of each other. And if the wife is pregnant amidst all these turmoil and heart breaks, a wife can be in quite an undesirable situation. Irrespective of whether a baby is planned or not it is an integral part of both of you. But the sad part is that neither you nor your spouse wants to be in the company of one another, at least for the time being. Check out some of the crucial items to contemplate as you are all set to cover this journey as a pregnant mother.

You should look after your baby as well as care for yourself

In case you are expecting a baby and is separated from your spouse, loneliness is a natural emotion. You may also feel that you have to stand up against the entire world. Emotions like disillusionment, fury, sadness, and helplessness are quite common. You should take good care of yourself at this stage of your life. Rest as much as possible, eat well, sleep well, do light exercises, keep all your doctor’s appointments, do all those things you are passionate about and get fresh air outdoors. You should not forget that it is a time when you should take care of yourself as well as your little one inside your womb.

You should be hopeful and optimistic despite being unsure

There is some sort of an emotional security when you are married and live together with your husband. If your divorce is finalized and both of you live separately, there is a sense of certainty as well as security that you have got separated and have the freedom to live separately from one another. But opting for a separation does not mean that your marriage has ended. It is a different ball game altogether. Thus, separation can be a big gray area that is full of uncertainty. The solution for this is to build up hope though nothing seems to be going right. You are primarily responsible to foster an environment where your baby will be safe and healthy while you can provide everything it requires to thrive. You need to be optimistic that everything will be alright though you are going through an emotional roller coaster ride now.

Establish some clear ground rules

In order to reduce the level of uncertainty, create some joint common ground rules. You should also ensure that such rules are formally documented so that both of you are sure of what to expect in case you forget some of the clauses. The rules can cover aspects like your sleeping arrangements, financial arrangements whether you will meet one another during this period and a specific date when you and your spouse will discuss the status of your relationship. These rules may also cover details like how you will share the news with your friends and family members and the consequences when you are still separated after your delivery.

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Gerald A. Maggio is an experienced Orange County divorce and family law attorney and family law attorney located in Irvine, California, serving the Orange County and Riverside areas. Mr. Maggio assists clients with legal issues including divorce, legal separation, divorce mediation, child custody, prenuptial agreements, stepparent adoptions, and other family law issues. Mr. Maggio has practiced law in California since 1999, and founded The Maggio Law Firm in 2005, focusing exclusively on divorce and family law matters.